Plethora of ‘Marriage’ – Dammit Marry her!

Mid last year with me growing ‘Older’ n ‘Wiser’ ( ;) ) and evidently falling in the crowd of ‘Eligible Bachelors’ (not using ‘Most’ coz I am yet concluding if I am ;) ), My loving Mom started troubling me with the disruptions of finding the so called ‘Right Guy’. Also, even every now and then my FB account keeps displaying updates of my some or other friend getting ‘Engage’, ‘Married’ or ‘In relation’ with their Beloved; looks like ‘Getting Hooked’ is contagious these days or may be folks in my surroundings are really ‘Eligible’ to get hitched (I remember having conversation with one good friend recently about the shrinking friends list and unsurprisingly he happens to share the same reason- ‘Most are either busy dating/ meeting/ finding their RIGHT partners and rest are convinced to get coupled at early possible’). It’s more or less like a sprint that you sharing with people of alike age so that you don’t overburden self with feeling of being left out alone.

How could I be an exception to this social creed and with her ‘My Mom’s’ insistence I happen to meet 2-3 guys till date and as expected nothing worked out due to a thick line between mine and their (‘Parents’) ideology of a perfect marriage. Ant fascinated by any of the fairy tales and M nowhere longing for my prince charming to come on white horse (I so wish…...…though fancy & rare combination :P) but still COMPATIBLITY (wont excuse if you happen to mold the due definition) has to be there.

Disgust with the feeling and been chased by regular family drama (have to include my all blood relations here as if I am burden on their head more than my parents… huuh :-/), I had to itch fully tell my Mom that will try and search by own bearing in mind her due conditions (same caste, class n blah blah). And with this tenacity in my mind, I happen to make account on one of the matrimonial site (since start I have deactivated my account thrice till date due to their over helpingness resulting flood in mail box by their daily Photo & Profile matches, ‘Thank God! they still haven’t embraced name match criteria’ :P ). In all conscience, I never find myself ok and convinced with the concept of finding ‘Better half’ with the help of such sites but with she (My Mom) taking daily follow ups, I have to certainly continue with my lame search. I defend myself again with the cues such sites provide, with the description Prospect ‘To Be’ has written about themselves and their expectations from their Better Halves (No offence, but sometimes when I need a good laugh I happen to login into my account ‘Matrimonial’ and perform random search and as anticipated they are always hilarious :D ).  Profusely to my rather everyone’s disclosure, every guy present there in fact EVERY GUY on this planet is looking for a Fair, Tall, Beautiful, high education labeled Woman with a great sense of humor despite of their analysis for self. Forgive me for my obnoxious bluntness but I always wanna raise a question ‘Have you ever seen self in the mirror..? ‘Urvashi’ or any other ‘Apsara’ (Nymph) exists only either in fairy tales or in Paradise so don’t desire them here. Period.

(I bet, all “To be there” and “To be not there” would be having tough time appetizing what made me make such meek comments; beforehand ant ‘apprehensive’ or ‘judgmental’ about their views and off that I laugh reading their English and common Grammar mistakes where for an e.g. ‘A’ or ‘U’ will make a difference in G_Y :P)

With me reading their self-description as ‘I am a nice, cool, lovely, sweet guy next door expecting someone who can turn their ‘life into a miracle’, ‘a friend for life’, ‘should have high family values’, ‘should treat in-laws as her own parents’, ‘Should be a teetotaler n non-smoker’, ‘Should prefer working after marriage’ n blah blah……..list continues personifying one’s aim and expectations, I happen to question myself or rather whole ‘FEMALE FRATERNITY’ - “If everyone is desirable of Ms. Perfect to have a flawless world together then where would majority of girls will go (strongly raising discomfort about ‘ordinary’ girls struggling hard for their survival persona and to differentiate self from ‘Anybody’ to ‘Somebody’)…….??”   

With expectations howling your mind and gallops of finding best, I would still like to state and suggest: Date a girl who – 

‘Dare to Dream’ (those who dream will surely achieve, may not all but at-least some)

‘Dare to be Independent’ (one who fights for her Freedom will surely respect your Freedom, the word people coin ‘Personal space’ won’t exist in your dictionary later, I bet!)

‘Dare to Speak’ (life would be monotonous if she takes whatever you or other is saying without making noise or uttering a word and after all it’s a bliss to enjoy & cherish love after a fight)   

‘Dare to Work’ (one who believes in shouldering this responsibility of yours can very well manage your household chores and all the strings attached post Marriage)

‘Dare to Travel’ (one who has passion for roads is always prepared for the worst during the transit and most imp she is more thrilled and excited about ‘How to Go’ than ‘Where to go’, adventure is abundantly found and will turn your world right side up)

‘Dare to Read’ (one who passionately thrives for good stuff to read will surely implement at-least half of it in betterment of life and true WISDOM will be her only n only choice)

‘Dare to Walk Alone’ (that way she’ll not always expect you to be her side causing any sort of discontentment or annoyingness to you)

‘Dare to Laugh’ (Smile is her only destination and she’ll ensure spreading her ‘Happy-Go-Lucky’ charm around)

‘Dare to Dance or Sing’ (one who pursues some hobby or career are happen to be most cheerful and satisfied people, life would always be a blessing with them thus just pray to find one)

‘Dare to Write’ (one who has flairs for words and literature will always have new ways to define your love and the way she feels about you to depart the boredom of life)

Awe! If you happen to Date any of them or akin and that ‘WOW’ factor is meritoriously identified then Hold her, don’t delay asking that ‘Princess’ to become ‘Queen’ for rest of your life. And, Poor Champ don’t be disheartened if you failed to meet any such passionate Woman or it didn’t work out in ‘First’ or ‘Second’ place, World hasn’t ended.

With all benevolence and love in your Heart, pursuit and Date a ‘Regular girl just like next door’, ‘who may not be highly aspirational but will surely know how to live with due dignity’, ‘who may be ordinary in looks but will always ensure making other woman jealous when she’s with YOU’, ‘who may not reads memoirs, journals or high technical/non-technical stuff but will ensure having adequate knowledge to raise a family’, ‘who may not gives you financial aid but believes in spending wisely’, ‘who firmly believes in replacing word Ordinary of her dictionary into Special for you’, ‘who might not solemnly preaches in a temple but ensure respect for elders and care/love for youngers’, ‘who may not be a proficient chef but knows basic culinary for Lunch and Dinner so that you don’t die with hunger/ starve daily’, ‘who may not party daily/weekly/fortnightly in Pub or any lounge or may not be a party element but ensure calling her loved ones regularly to know their whereabouts’, ‘who may not be in perfect 36/24/36 size or has perfect curves but ensure maintaining healthy and wealthy physique’, ‘who may not dresses or grooms self gorgeously but ensure wearing adequate clothes and make-up sustaining places’ requirement’,  ‘who may not have sexy cheek bone or pretty dimple on cheeks but ensure welcoming everyone with open heart and smile on her face to honor their presence’, ‘who may demands gifts or asks for every celebration be it Birthday or an Anniversary just to ensure you are spending time together and exchanging token of love and remembrance’, ‘who believes in spreading happiness and turning your life into paradise’ and last but not the least ‘for you world or luxury may have its due definition which keeps on evolving but for her ‘YOU’ are the only WORLD & JEWEL and spending time in your arms is the only LUXURY’.

Blessing is your life if you chance to find such a gem for rest of your life, don’t waste time judging her sensibly, just embrace her, cuddle her with due love, surrender yourself as her only Man, promise her for creating beautiful world together and she acting as an only and only QUEEN…….here you go, an altogether life in ecstasy is waiting for YOU……. damn it MARRY HER!

Neither I am raising any expectations with this greediness spreading across nor I am frustrated with the plight of finding ‘So called’ right guy, My promising search is still ON and I am glad and content to convey myself that someone is still struggling or wasting time finding his final destination or companion for Life i.e. 'ME' coz I happen to be a ‘Girl next door’ like most JJ

PS: If you happen to be a girl reading this, then ‘Please Smile, You’re Beautiful’ and if you happen to be a guy reading this, then ‘Please Smile, since you have read this……ALREADY’ xoxoxo  JJJJ                                     

Inspired by ‘Date a boy who travels’ , ‘Date a Girl Who Travels’ and ‘Date a Girl who Reads’.

*What’s cooking……..umm le me think? ^_^ ^o^

Last week while having couple of free split seconds with naughtiness howling my mind, I thought of sharing a personal message in codes with a close buddy over her Facebook wall and instantly saw other friend peeped in asking out of curiosity ‘What’s cooking ladies..?’. Though famous for nonstop Gossiping but Honestly, what were we cooking and the answer to everyone’s disbelief was nothing personal or secretive as such which can’t be publicized with bunch of people I happen to share life daily on facebook without ‘Codes’.
Taking a pause, billion neurons started troubling my brain on how life has changed with the increase in nos/count for age..? Every emotion, every feeling, every gesture has got a revolutionary change over a period of time and ideally their definition was/is/will be different at a particular age. To my or your dismay, our thoughts characteristically are molded with the surroundings, they are broadened with the vision our eyes visualize, they hover with the imaginations of our mind’s ability to collect and envision.
I remember when I was a prep kid, all I used to ponder was about the life of fancy stories that either Maa or Dada had cover as a part of daily lullaby. Also my world was all restricted to 5 fruits name Apple, Mango, Banana , Orange and Grapes (how difficult it was that time to pronounce this word), 5 vegetables name Potato, Onion, Cauliflower, Peas and Tomato (Potato used to be my fav in ol) and list goes on for several other 5 set of things.
With me growing up and started going to Primary, all the things that WE (me and my friends of that time) used to discuss/ chatter were about toys, chocolates, books etc. All we used to crib about the things that our parents doesn’t let us do and about the things on which we’re  yelled by teachers. Spending max time on the ground was the big time achievement, priceless were the moments of exchanging expressions by saying some silly phrases, ‘ Dost nhi h kya’, ‘M bhi kal khila dunga’, ‘Yeh teri mummy ne banaya, (after a pause)….mujhe bhi khila na kaisa h’ n list goes on.
With me growing up further up until Secondary class, ‘To Study’ used to be the big time chore and nevertheless to mention securing position among top 3 used to be the only dream. With bit enrichment in sense of understanding, I had restricted myself to the daily schedule made by my particular and strict Mom keeping close eye on every second spent starting from getting up in the morning till getting lost in peaceful dreams. With further me moving to +2 class, word Dream was now replaced and transformed into ‘Aim’ with constantly everyone asking ‘Beta aage kya karna hain..?’Or something similar and Books were the only friend I had those days. With immense pressure to perform, to excel chasing me 24*7; getting a good, reputed rather so called “AIMS” was my only Dream. As an when I started weaving my parents dream in my own eyes, days passed in slogging my ass into tight study schedule, burning midnight oil AND taking early morning coaching notes.
Fortunately got through and was by then certain that this Renowned, Prestigious college is going to be my life for forthcoming 5 precious years of my life and also molding my life for another battle after this (in the same context “What after this…?”). Definition of my world then was having its own meaning with each semester passed and with me rising up. ‘LIFE’ was the only word with its due importance that surrogated a periphery around me during those days and was learning its ‘REAL MEANING’ hard way.  With every bits n pieces of ‘Chaos’, ‘Echoes’ of fight in battle of survival/ existence getting on my nerves, with every incident passed I started raising ‘INFIDELITY’ towards my due AIM.
Though Today, when people see me in white court, give due respect, treat me equal to GOD or rather as living GOD and all I am busy in making money and strengthening my bank balance to have a luxurious comfortable sleep for rest of my life. After spending one decent quarter century, My dreams have shaped and all grown now from those closed four walls of a 2 BHK owned by my father to a luxurious Bunglow, from that machine running on  2 small wheels with the help of pedal to a Mercedes/ Jaguar or BMW 7 series, from that black thread tied on my arms (out of superstition to prevent me from bad evil spirits n blah blah) to some carat gold bracelet and list further goes on with endless wishes and frantic desires. In short, meaning of ‘LIVING’ has totally changed for me now and guess with the time passing it’ll keep on evolving; Ghost of past and Gallops of future will make my PRESENT worth Living and Demanding.  

Prophesy: We the only one who have given wings to them (THOUGHTS & HOPES), so ‘let them fly’, ‘let them fly’…..very far very far…. Beyond Imagination! Beyond Control! :)

PS: Please Remember life is never equal and same at any two different point of time thus aim good and accept the positive energy from where possible…… HAPPY FLYING! HAPPY LIVING! JJJJ

* Frictional & Philosophical